not an obligatory father's day blog post

i so don't want to write about father's day today. it's too easy, too cliche. children from divorced couples can always play the role of the contrarian. for every awesome father out there, i'm sure there's a father who's not so awesome. and that sucks but that's life. and i could write about how awesome my mom is. but if you read my blog or know me personally, you already know how awesome my mom is.

and as the years roll on with this blog, i can't keep writing about christmas on christmas and the superbowl on superbowl sunday. i might as well begin copying and pasting old blogs instead. why touch on subjects that i've already touched on previously?

so this won't exactly be about father's day. but it is for the people (like myself) who grew up in a single parent environment.

whether or not your father was around, you have to keep living. in the end, we're all responsible for our own lives and our own well being. and if your life is awesome, you should recognize how much effort you put into yourself to make that happen. and if your life sucks and you're looking for someone to blame, chances are you're your own worst enemy.

if your dad wasn't around while growing up, i feel bad for you, but only to a certain degree. i don't believe it's a built in excuse to constantly cry about how much life dumped on you. if this is something that happened to you, and you let it affect you to the point that it affects your overall quality of life, you need to get over it. you need to toughen up.

some dads don't stick around. and they suck for that. but learn from them. if you can't stand them for not sticking around, then make sure you're the type to stick around. if your dad gave up on you, don't give up on yourself. you can't make your dad be the person you wish he was. but you can always make sure you're the person you want to be.

some people are forced to live with less. growing up with one parent is supposed to be harder. but it's also more rewarding in the end.

so please, if you had a parent walk away on you, but the other one chose to stick around, appreciate it. appreciate the parent that stuck around. appreciate that each member of the tribe had to pick up a little bit more of the weight. appreciate that you made it, that you're alive. and don't ever let it be your excuse for a lesser life. just because someone else walks out on you is no excuse to walk out on yourself.